However, such advantages need to be managed carefully. A singleton child enters Kindergarten blindly, without the security of knowing anybody. They have each other and are best friends who support one another. There are obvious advantages of being a twin and entering Kindergarten. This allows the other child and the parent to have the intimacy required for a gradual and successful release. This process of ‘emotional shuttling’ from one twin to another is counterproductive and not exactly empowering for the parent.Ī solution to this problem is the Kindergarten staff themselves stepping in and reducing the burden involved in the separation by simply supporting the parent and preoccupying one of the children. In order to discipline a child, a parent needs to be 100% present and support each child separately. Only a few days later as the second twin is finally adjusting, the first one changes his behavior and assumes the original position of the second twin.Īt times, the competition between the twins is so intense that it is impossible for the parent to completely engage in a conducive manner. One adjusts quickly, the other not so quickly. For example, one screams and becomes quite clingy whereas the other sits happily with the other children.
With twins, it’s one parent and two children who both need the parent in their own special way, often competing for his/her attention in a contrasting manner.
In most cases it is only one parent that attends the first day of Kindergarten. When they enter Kindergarten for the first time, they experience separation like all of the other children however there are additional aspects unique only to them.
This complexity is also applicable to the twins themselves. Dealing with separation as a parent of twins, is a little more complex than usual as the parents must part with each twin separately and also as a pair, as twins.
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